Issue 21 of An introduction to couples therapy
If you want to get through to the one you are talking to it is usually a good idea to talk about your own thoughts, feelings and experiences. "When you say that, I feel sad",
"I wonder what you mean when you say like that?"
This is called "I-messages" and makes it easier for the recipient to receive what is actually being said. Using so called "I-messages" also raises less bad blood, thereby reduces the risk of the conflict escalating.
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An introduction to couples therapy
Do you find that you and your partner argue about the same things, over and over again? And no mather how much you try, the problems are still there ?
Do you want to learn more about how you can impact your relationship in a positive direction and achieve greater closeness with your partner? Then this is the course for you!
In this course you will receive e-mails for 28 days, giving you more knowledge on what influences whether a relationship works well or not. You also get tips on how you can create better conditions for you and your partner to meet and resolve conflicts. In addition you will get recommendations for books that can help you further as well as exercises you can do to effect change in the relationship.
The course is written and developed by Therese Anderbro & Liv Svirsky , both licensed psychologists, psychotherapists and supervisors in CBT . They have authored the book "Par I Beteendeterapi " which is a book for therapists on couples therapy .
Liv Svirsky is also the author of books on children, parenting and anxiety problems.
Therese Anderbro is Ph.D since 2012, when she defended a thesis on CBT in type 1 diabetes.