Issue 1 of Connecting Conversations
In our hyper connected, over scheduled world we all have everything but time and IRL (In Real Life) conversations. Think about it, when was the last time you had an in-depth discussion, called someone on the phone to chat (personally or professionally), or took the time to learn something new about someone?
If you answered 1999 you are not alone. We are currently in a conversation crisis. IRL conversations are starting to be become a thing of the past and are rapidly being replaced by technology – social media, texting and email.
IRL conversations are deemed too unpredictable, uncontrollable and feel like they are an interruption of our very busy, over scheduled, hyper connected lives – especially if conflict is involved.
Research is showing that we are the most connected we have ever been, and yet still the most alone.(1)
Our lack of IRL conversations are leaving us feeling less connected, less empathic, less creative and fulfilled.
Sherry Turkle in her book Reclaiming Conversations writes about how many of the things we all struggle with in work and love can be helped by conversation.(2) We completely agree and will take it even one step further…
We believe it isn’t just that we need to have more conversations, we need to have BETTER conversations, conversations that help us feel connected and understood.
The simplest way to do that is by being curious. Being curious in conversations helps you feel happier, inspired, connected and supports collaboration, innovation and gives you a leg up on others. Curious conversations are the framework for our relationships, our decision making and influences our health and happiness.
Over the next few weeks we are going to share with you the specific Curiosity Skills from The Power of Curiosity so you too can start having IRL curious conversations, achieving what you want and feel good about it – even in conflict. Cool, right?
Today, replace two texts or emails with real live conversations. What was it like for you and what did you learn?
Recommended reading: Reclaiming Conversations: The Power Of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle (Penguin Press, 2015)