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Being ambivalent to change is the rule, not an exception. Ambivalence means that the person has arguments for and against change, almost simultaneously. It is important that the person shows that they are ready to talk about this.

Ask the person to list both the disadvantages continuing to live this way and the benefits of making a change.

Key questions to further explore ambivalence:


  • I'm curious, is it okay if I ask you about ...? (Ask for permission)

  • What are the disadvantages of continuing to live as you are now?

  • What are the benefits of making a change?

People shouldn’t be talking just about what’s good about a situation.That will not give them time to explore the benefits of a change. 


Today’s task
Are you thinking of making a change? Maybe it's something you’ve wanted for a long time, or something that you occasionally think that you should get started. Try to explore your own ambivalence by listing both the disadvantages of continuing to live as you do now and the benefits of making a change.