Issue 8 of Responsibility syndrome
For many of those who suffer from responsibility syndrome, perfectionist behavioral patterns are a part of the problem. Perhaps you don’t consider yourself a perfectionist, but if those who are close to you do, that might be an important clue.
One simple definition of perfectionism is placing higher demands on yourself and others than the situation calls for. Psychology researchers describe perfectionism as a pervasive pattern of anxiety related to the risk of failure, doubting one’s own actions, harsh self-criticism and a perceived pressure from one’s surroundings to be perfect. People with perfectionist tendencies often believe that their worth and belonging are determined by their performance, and that others only accept them as long as they are perfect in every way.
Signs that you have perfectionist tendencies:
- You often think others’ performances are sub-par.
- You have a hard time letting go of assignments and getting things done at work, since they never seems quite good enough or ready to hand in.
- You prefer to work alone (to make sure things are done properly).
- A “passing” performance feels like a failure to you.
At dailybitsof.com you will find an entire course on perfectionism. If you find that the above description hits close to home, that might be useful to you.
Would you agree that you have some perfectionist tendencies? If so, when have those tendencies made things difficult for you?
For example: “I always had a hard time handing in assignments in school, since they never felt good enough. I don’t want to go to the gym if I can’t do my entire workout routine, which means I often just don’t go. I often give up on my ambition to eat more vegetarian, since a few missteps usually feel like a failure”.