Issue 1 of The Coaching Habit
You can guess that when you add coaching to your leadership skills, it helps others. It brings focus, it creates self-sufficiency, it drives autonomy, it helps generate greater impact. That’s all well and good.
But let’s look at how coaching others can help you. It lets you work less hard and have more impact. When you build a coaching habit, you can more easily break out of three vicious circles that plague our workplaces: creating overdependence, getting overwhelmed and becoming disconnected.
Circle #1: Creating Overdependence
You may find that you’ve become part of an overdependent team. There’s a double whammy here. First, you’ve trained your people to become excessively reliant on you, a situation that turns out to be disempowering for them and frustrating for you.
And then as an unwelcome bonus, because you’ve been so successful in creating this dependency that you now have too much work to do, you may also have become a bottleneck in the system. Everyone loses momentum and motivation. The more you help your people, the more they seem to need your help. The more they need your help, the more time you spend helping them.
Building a coaching habit will help your team be more self-sufficient by increasing their autonomy and sense of mastery and by reducing your need to jump in, take over and become the bottleneck.
Circle #2: Getting Overwhelmed
You may also be overwhelmed by the quantity of work you have. It doesn’t matter if you’ve mastered all the productivity hacks in the world; the faster you dig, the faster the world keeps flooding in.
As you’re pulled in different directions by proliferating priorities, distracted by the relentless ping of email and hustling from meeting to meeting, you lose focus. The more you lose focus, the more overwhelmed you feel. The more overwhelmed you feel, the more you lose focus.
Building a coaching habit will help you regain focus so you and your team can do the work that has real impact and so you can direct your time, energy and resources to solving the challenges that make a difference.
Circle #3: Becoming Disconnected
Finally, you may be disconnected from the work that matters. My previous book Do More Great Work had as its foundation the principle that it’s not enough just to get things done. You have to help people do more of the work that has impact and meaning. The more we do work that has no real purpose, the less engaged and motivated we are. The less engaged we are, the less likely we are to find and create Great Work.
Building a coaching habit will help you and your team reconnect to the work that not only has impact but has meaning as well. Coaching can fuel the courage to step out beyond the comfortable and familiar, can help people learn from their experiences and can literally and metaphorically increase and help fulfil a person’s potential.
In this course, we will reveal four of the seven questions from my new book, The Coaching Habit. When you start using them to create a coaching habit, you will break out of these three vicious circles and elevate the way you work. The questions work not only with your direct reports but also with customers, suppliers, colleagues, bosses and even (occasionally and, obviously, with no guarantees offered) spouses and teenage children.
These questions have the potential to turn you from an advice-giving machine into someone who can using coaching as an effective management tool..
Which of the three circles resonated most strongly for you? When you look more closely at it, what patterns and habits do you notice? And, if you could fix it, what would perfect look like? Write down your answers.
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